The Feminist Bar Podcast

Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Tapiwa Chikungwa, an educator with experience navigating schooling systems across several continents, to talk about what African formal education was built to produce and who it was never built for. They trace the gap between getting girls into classrooms and actually educating them once inside, what happens to girls who clear the access barrier and walk into schools that remain hostile to them, and who benefits from keeping girls undereducated without ever saying so directly. That same system is failing boys differently, leaving many of them pulled toward red pill content and increasingly resistant to female authority, while parents remain largely absent from the fight and teachers burn out inside a structure that was never built to sustain them either. Listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast
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Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with two guests speaking anonymously to talk about sex as duty. Marriage teaches women that their bodies are owed to someone else on schedule, and this episode goes after what that actually does to a person over years. The guests name intimacy starvation directly: the exhaustion of being sexually active and still hungry for something real, because what’s on offer is obligation dressed up as intimacy. They pull apart the religious scripts, the legal architecture of marriage, and the tired myth that women simply want less sex, all of which work together to keep women performing desire they don’t feel and calling it normal. 
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Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Zimbabwean author Sue Nyathi, born and raised in Bulawayo and now based in Johannesburg. Sue is the author of The Polygamist, The Gold Diggers, A Family Affair, and An Angel's Demise. Her debut novel The Polygamist is currently one of the most watched shows on Netflix globally, reaching the top of the non-English chart across South Africa, Nigeria, France, Belgium and Jamaica within its first week of release.
This conversation unpacks polygamy, power and patriarchy through a feminist lens. They get into what modern polygamy actually is and who it serves, educated women and the arrangements they accept, transactional relationships, the good father/bad husband split, and what women are left holding when patriarchal structures collapse.
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Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down to talk about money, women, and the cost of proving yourself in a world built to make you feel like you have something to prove. They get into the ways women overcompensate financially inside relationships, what it looks like to be extorted or swindled by someone who clocked your need to be seen as enough, and why patriarchy is the thing underneath all of it.Listen: thefeministbar.podbean.com Support: patreon.com/thefeministbarpodcast Everything else: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

In this episode of the Gay and African at Home series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with , a queer mother who came out later in life and somehow managed to raise a brilliant human while figuring herself out along the way.This conversation is full of laughter, tenderness, and honesty. reflects on motherhood as a site of curiosity, missteps, joy, and deep love. She shares how coming out reshaped her understanding of family, how parenting pushed her to be braver than fear ever allowed, and how humour, softness, and truth have become tools for survival.Together, Tinatswe and talk about building home as a living, breathing thing. A place where questions are welcome, where queerness is not whispered, and where motherhood does not require perfection. This episode reminds us that queer parenting is not just about protection, it is also about play, imagination, and choosing joy again and again.Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar

Gay and African at Home is a tender and necessary series that brings queer Africans and their families into intimate conversation. Through gentle storytelling and honest reflection, the series reveals how queerness, language, belonging, and family love unfold inside African homes.
 
In this episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Dorothy and her younger sister for a warm and layered conversation about identity, faith, and the quiet work of making home a safe place to return to. Dorothy reflects on growing up creative, writing lesbian erotica in her teenage years, and now DJing gospel music while holding the complexity and humour of that journey. She and her sister revisit their childhood, the unspoken expectations around sexuality, and the moment queerness entered their conversations in real and transformative ways.
 
Together, they explore what it means to love someone through uncertainty, how faith communities shaped their earliest understandings of desire, and how sisters learn to listen to each other with softness. This is a story about coming out, yes, but also about growing together. It is about the small, brave gestures that turn family into refuge, and the choices that turn a house into home for a queer person.
 
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Gay and African at Home is a tender and necessary series that brings queer Africans and their families into intimate conversation.
In this opening episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with two sisters whose relationship has been shaped by shared faith, loss, and the unfolding of queer identity. They revisit the church pews of their childhood, the rituals that shaped their sense of belonging, and the grief that rearranged their lives in ways they did not expect.
 
Together, they talk about how sexuality first entered the conversation between them, the fears that surfaced, and the unexpected tenderness that followed. They reflect on how church teachings shaped their earliest ideas about love and selfhood, and how those ideas shifted as one sister came into her queerness.
 
This episode is a gentle holding of complexity. It explores the role of family in unlearning homophobia, the quiet ways siblings become allies, and the healing that happens when two people choose honesty over silence. It is a story about finding belonging again, not through institutions, but through each other.
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In this episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Edinah Masiyiwa, Executive Director of the Women’s Action Group, to unpack what safe abortion really means in Zimbabwe.
Together, they explore the difference between safe and unsafe methods, what to do when complications arise, and how to seek post-abortion care safely and with dignity. Edinah also shares insights on navigating the law, protecting privacy, and understanding one’s rights when interacting with health workers or the police.
A gentle yet urgent conversation reminding us that abortion is part of many women’s lives, and that care—not criminalization—saves lives.
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In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Amari, who is joyfully child-free by choice and thriving.
Amari’s story is a simple yet powerful reminder of the many ways women can exist and imagine their lives. She reflects on how she has never struggled with the decision not to have children, nor with pressure from family, and how that freedom has allowed her to create a life full of meaning, ease, and joy.
This is a conversation about choosing differently without apology, about the beauty of living outside of expectation, and about embracing the full spectrum of womanhood, motherhood, and everything beyond.
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In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Theo, a Zambian queer, masc-presenting mother, as she reflects on the layered journey of becoming a parent while navigating her queerness.
Theo opens up about her own childhood and the cultural expectations that shaped her early ideas of family, children, and marriage. She speaks candidly about the realities of queer motherhood in Africa, from the contradictions and silences she has had to live through, to the moments of tenderness and love that anchor her relationship with her children.
Now, looking back, Theo shares why she advocates for women to remain child-free if they can, speaking from a place of both regret and resilience. This is a conversation about love and responsibility, about questioning inherited scripts, and about the courage it takes to reimagine motherhood on one’s own terms.
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